So far, I had a great morning with my mom. We made slime, bath bombs, and had a dance party. Right now I am practicing my roller-blading in the basement. Oh, I can’t forget about Reflex and Lexia. I did that this morning. I can’t wait to see you on Monday. Have a great weekend! Miss You! -Khloe, age 9
Did you ever get so close to the “fire” that you had to move back or turn and walk away? There is no doubt it has happened to many within their own personal lives and in education. I can’t help but challenge every educator to move closer to the uncomfortable flame that Mandy Froehlich ignites with her book “The Fire Within”. This very book is a small glimpse into those we are interacting with every single day. A world with people who have a story… one that is part of them, but doesn’t define them. One that every educator needs to know to create a culture of empathy and understanding for those around us in order to spark that passion for learning. How can we possibly teach with and for those that we do not know? Is there an elephant in the room where you are standing? This very book not only affirmed my philosophy of knowing another’s story, but it has opened my eyes to the passion for learning that can be ignited from defeat!
The Girl & Her Little Red Suitcase…
Being a part of Mandy’s story by allowing myself to feel that sense of fear and pain that she as a 5 year old may have felt was ultimately my choice. She wasn’t asking me to feel that pain and it is quite possible that she had a completely different intent, but that is what I felt. A lump was in my throat while reading that she was coming up with the words she knew she needed to bring herself back into a world she was conflicted to live in, the one she knew as her home. I pushed myself to read on. I knew I may have a girl or a boy with a “little red backpack” that would need me to understand. I pushed myself because I knew that I was sitting at lunch every day with colleagues who may be carrying a “little red suitcase” themselves. Whether it was a “suitcase”, anxiety, depression or an unknown… Maybe, just maybe I could find a way to help others by understanding that adversity does not mean destiny and that a story is never completely written without edits… maybe I could help in someway with the next draft of their life. Just by being aware.
Victim to Advocate: Jennifer Johnson’s Story…
I was curious as to how Jennifer’s story resembled Mandy’s or possibly differed altogether. As I read on, I found myself taking a break after I read about her abuse. It was more than I could open my mind to on that particular day. I stopped and prayed for Jennifer… not because she asked me to and not because I thought she needed me to, but to thank her for finding the courage to share. A week went by before I found myself back in Chapter Four exposing myself to an anxiety I didn’t know I had… I was so completely uncomfortable. It was then that I realized I could be working with a “Jennifer” or teaching a “Jennifer” and I owed it to myself to open my eyes, my ears, and my heart to her story. One may think I owed it to Jennifer, and that may very well be, but on that day I knew I was the one in need of the exposure and through Jennifer I leaned in to the uncomfortable feeling I had tried to run from. I am now more aware.
Out of the Darkness…
This may seem so crazy to say, but when I reached Jennifer Casa-Todd‘s story I felt defeat come over me. It was a moment that I didn’t understand at first, but now I do. You see, while building my PLN, I started to follow Jennifer on Twitter and just like with Mandy I had this vision of what they were like and what I oddly enough wanted them to be… I know, crazy of me, right? You see, I thrive on go-getters, high-achievers, goodness and positivity and for some odd reason I had envisioned them as having it all put together with a beautifully wrapped bow on top of complete perfection. Would their story change that? Absolutely NOT! So why did I stop and take that deep breath? The thing is, I don’t know if I was ready for another person in “my world” to not be okay. But I read on… and oh did Jennifer’s story speak to me. I too had a concussion. To really understand the connection to my fear… I remember people in my life not handling my imperfect world of a drug-induced coma, loss of language and overall agitation that I had not displayed before. This made me so uncomfortable, yet reminded me of how I felt so burdened by other’s expectations of me looking like I had it all together. Oh, did that hit home! Listening to Jennifer recall her first attempt at being herself again and eventually an acceptance that she is different now opened me up to an acceptance that I too am different now. Yes, we smile. Yes, we are positive. Yes, we have hurdles. Yes, we are imperfect. Just be aware.
My choice… my takeaway…
Expert vs Experience was one of the most powerful conversations we had during our book study of “The Fire Within”. The experienced are not the expert… it is simply not their hat to wear. However, they can draw you in to understanding and help you build empathy based on feelings and emotions only the experienced can describe from their own personal journey. No one is claiming that by experiencing or listening to the experienced, levels us up as an “expert”, nor would we want to take on the very large responsibility. But we must recognize that we are a human connection to betterment and we must be willing to reach out and extend our hand. We must open doors to those in need and lift them up with support and strength.
Some people walk through life turning the cheek. Some look at life straight on. Some don’t pretend to know it all, but empathize for the person walking along side them. Some listen. Some talk. Some don’t want to be bothered. My take away from this incredibly profound book is…
How can we be a part of the lives of others if we choose to silo the experience? One’s story is their own to tell and through that story we can be aware. We can be aware of …
- assumptions we make.
- judgement we cast.
- the walk we take.
- the words we speak.
- the example we are.
- the strength found in one’s story.
- the impact we have.
- the inspiration we can give
- the support we must give.
- and the superpowers we can discover!
Are you able to “read a room” like Mandy so passionately describes her superpower? Open the door and come a little closer to the fire within… you will be surprised at how close you can get to the flame without ever getting burnt!
Did you ever read a book that continuously stops you in your tracks? I have been blessed to read many like this over the last couple of years, and once again I feel that I have hit the mother-load with my newest adventure “STOP. RIGHT. NOW. The 39 STOPS to Making Schools Better” by Jimmy Casas and Jeffrey Zoul. This book has left me in complete AWE, smothered in embarrassment, and standing on a soapbox all within a few short STOPS! Oh yes, I am uncomfortable… and crazy enough I thrive on on that feeling because it equates growth in my world and that of the entire educational community!
Oh to the AWE…
I have never really thought about it as much as I should have, but so often we as educators take the immense amount of pressure placed on us to get our students ready for the next grade and we literally create a culture that is developmentally set up for failure. In place of focusing on the now, we feel we are always needing to prepare them for the next level. In STOP 8 Jeff and Jimmy remind us that in order to find balance for every child socially, emotionally, and behaviorally, we must “focus relentlessly on the moments-and the students-before them today.” They are not saying that we ignore yearly goals or refrain from looking to the future to work back to the point we are at, but “if students learn precisely what they need to at each step of their journey, they will ultimately acquire all of the knowledge and skills teachers expect them to possess upon high school graduation.” I too have heard the words come out of my mouth like… “in the real world you will need to OR come next year you will need” and what I really want to be saying is… today we are focusing on ____________ to build a stronger tomorrow for every child!
Eeeek to the Embarrassment…
STOP 1: Assumptions! BOOM! This is my STOP… the one that I have felt on both sides. The one that embarrassed me most because I have been guilty of judging/assuming and let down by being judged. The vulnerability that Jeff showed in sharing his own “humbling- if not humiliating- moment” definitely encouraged readers like me to take a long look on the inside. I have always taken pride in knowing a child’s story and not assuming anything good, bad or indifferent. I have always felt my bonds were so strong because they did not feel judged and that I was always looking to know more to help them grow and be a part of their world. I have felt that so often others come to me and share heartfelt moments that can be challenging to even get the words out, because they know I will listen and won’t judge or assume. However, the one area that I have assumed more than my share has been with my administration. Often, I have passed judgement on decisions based solely on my perspective and the reactionary thought of “have you forgotten so quickly what it is like to be in the classroom or is this really the best for kids?” I have assumed decisions were based on their needs and not of the staff or children. I have assumed their intentions were skewed from what I deemed “good”. I am not excusing myself in any way for making these assumptions, but it wasn’t until I took a risk and started having tough conversations with administrators that I could see their perspective. I am not just referring to my district, but the network of principals, superintendents, tech integration specialists,curriculum directors, assistants at all levels and more that I have brought into my life through my global PLN (Professional Learning Network). This open conversation that gets rather sticky at times and doesn’t always end with agreement. At times we must agree to disagree to be quite honest. However, it nurtures a culture of trust, respect, understanding, appreciation, and a well-rounded balance for the betterment of our community through relationships that do matter. We can try and convince ourselves that there are sides and levels and that crossing them takes you to a “dark side”, but what I see is light… the kind that shines brightly on relationships being built around conversations that need to happen if we want a culture that thrives and not just exists.
Standing on My Soapbox…
When I am really hooked on a book, my students always know because it will be the same one in hand each time we stamina read. I am always with book in hand when they are, but for the same book to be in and out of the classroom for a stretch of time means one and only one thing… Mrs. Nan is in a book study again and can’t get enough! What I love most is when my students’ curiosity peeks and they just have to find out what it is all about. This time, I didn’t share right away. I told them the full title of the book and spun around the question to ask them what they thought we should STOP in education. You could have heard a pin drop… literally. NO ONE spoke and trust me this is RARE! I was actually sad at first because I pride myself on the relationship I have with them and the vulnerability that they normally embrace. This was different. To them, this was crossing a line… and there is no doubt other educators would feel the same. Not me, I need to know. I must take that risk in order to move forward. I reassured them of my love and that in no way would I be offended by their response. I reminded them that I trust them to share their STOP for the betterment of children and their learning. In turn, their hearts shared countless changes they feel would make a difference for all children. These 2 STOPS hit me hard (the lasting impact that they have had on these children for them to talk about it when it isn’t occurring for them this school year is profound.)
“Kids have so much energy, STOP doing NO RECESS!”
I had to know more so I asked. What do you mean by this? I have never known you to lose your recess. To this she replied, “I don’t lose my recess, but the ones who do distract me in class because they need it to get rid of their energy.” BOOM! OH MY WORD! I took pause and thanked her for sharing. Next up…
“STOP Right Now moving bees, clips and more.”
This one came from a child that had grown so much this year. He was learning to value his own voice, behaviors, reactions, and ability. He himself chose “cooperate” for his #OneWord2019 because it can be hard for him and he has realized that when he does do this he really likes himself and school. Once again I needed to know more… Can you tell me what you mean by this? He went on to say that it was really hard for him to sit still and focus and that this happened to him a lot before 3rd grade. He went on to say that it was hard to make friends because of it and it just built up anger and sadness. Sigh…
After these tough conversations, I felt I owed it to their parents to share this unexpected journey with them. I sent out a message that explained the book and how the children shared their viewpoints. I wanted to make sure that they knew it was discussed with respect and that if the topic came home in their daily “table talk” to embrace it and share with me. Not only did the parents appreciate the opportunity, but several of them asked how to purchase the book. This to me was one of the best unplanned lessons I could have ever experienced. This takes me to STOP 39…
STOP #39: Doing What You’ve Always Done… if I were the teacher that I was when I graduated in the spring of 1995, I would be coming up short at every turn. Computers were just arriving on campus and emails were being passed out to many of us who only owned a typewriter. I would have a classroom built on the Industrial Revolution factory/mill mindset in place of the 21st Century. I am the teacher today that my students need me to be. It can be uncomfortable and at times down right messy, but isn’t that what learning and growing really looks like? I cannot guarantee every parent that what I am trying to do in education is the perfect choice with 100% accuracy, but I couldn’t do that 22 years ago when I was hired either. What I can guarantee them is…
- I am not doing what I am doing because it has always been done that way, but instead I am doing what I feel is best for their child.
- I am willing to take any risk that will help their child.
- I am willing to learn with them and from them and alongside them, as I am not and never will be the expert on every topic or idea.
- I will always choose learning that is in their child’s best interest. That will involve state standards, passions, uncomfortable ideas of the unknown, empathy, compassion, respect, confidence, and anything that may bring growth academically, emotionally, behaviorally, and socially.
- I will always advocate for their child.
- I will give second chances because at the age of 46 I still need them.
- I will never take for granted the amount of impact that I have on their child.
- I will create boundaries and discipline their child, and they will know it is because I love them.
- I will empower every child to create opportunity for themselves.
- I will always believe I can be better and in turn they can be too!
We cannot START creating a culture of betterment if we do not STOP doing just because it has always been done. Thank you to Jeff and Jimmy for sparking the conversation that is desperately needed in education today.
When my students heard “The world is waiting to hear from you” they knew that they were destined to OWN their moment.
So I asked one question… “If you could pick one word that you feel would be a challenge, yet help to better you in a magical way, what word would you pick?” Now is the time to OWN your #OneWord2019
Without hesitation, this is what they wrote…
My one word for 2019 is LEADER! I picked this word to help me become a better person. This word is now my own personal goal. I can lead ME! I can lead with my actions. I can make good choices in the way I act even when an adult isn’t with me. I can lead with my emotions. I can lead with my words. A good leader is not bossy. A good leader helps someone when they don’t get it. I can lead with my friendships. Being kind is very important. These are all the reasons I picked leader for my one word this year. -Karsten, age 9
My one word for 2019 is BALANCE! I choose balance to help me be become better. I will not play the Wii U for 5 hours a day and instead I will play the Wii for 5 minutes and then with my dog for 5 minutes. I will also stop playing alone for 10 minutes and instead I will play with my sister for those 10 minutes. -Emma, age 9
My one word for 2019 is BREATHE! I picked this word to help me when I am worried. This is now going to be a goal for me. I am going to breathe when I have a hard test. I am going to breathe when I lose something so that I don’t get upset. I am going to breathe when I am building Legos and they break. When I worry I am going to breathe. I picked this word because I am not that strong at it and I never tried it before. If I can stop and breathe instead of getting upset I will be so proud of myself.-Madeline, age 8
My one word for 2019 is HELPING! I picked this word so that I can become better at it. I want to help people out instead of watching them struggle. I’m going to help raise money for the hospital instead of letting someone else do it. I am going to donate to the poor instead of watching them stand and wait for a donation. I know I will feel better if I do this all year. -Thomas, age 9
My one word for 2019 is BE to make ME a better person! I need to BE kind so that other people are kind. I picked BE because I want to BE the person that is different. A lot of people don’t think about it. I picked BE because I think that it is an awesome word. You need to BE yourself because everyone else is already taken! This is my one word for 2019. -Jayde, 8
My one word this year is FRIENDSHIP! I picked this word to help me become a better friend. Friends can motivate you. They can help you. They can help me when I am down. -Bobby, age 9
My one word for 2019 is SMILE! I picked this word to help me crush more goals. I want to smile at people instead of frowning so people won’t think that I am miserable. I want to smile and most of all be happy. I want to smile at people because if I do they will smile back! That is why I want to smile! -Grace, age 8
Help me by sharing this opportunity across the globe with others to spotlight their voice! I am looking for voices of all ages to share their thoughts over the next 12 months… a moment in time for us to journey together! Let’s start sharing! Anyone can guest blog… no age limit or title! Pre-Service teacher… YES! Teacher… YES! Admin.. YES! Professor… YES! STUDENT… YES! Parent… YES! Your own personal child… YES! If you are invested one way or another into the betterment of education, I want to share your perspective! For details…
Tis’ the season…
for true insanity! The kind that comes in the form of
shopping til’ I drop
(let me toss in the excitement of presenting at my first conference)
and…. oh, yes…
planning engaging lessons that supersede that of the jolly ol’ man himself!
Now that last one is a dooooozy! So how on earth can we as educators keep learning at the forefront of the holiday season. Quite simple… just ask our students!
What would you like to do in math for the next couple of weeks? Their eyes were wide open to match their little voices that were going nonstop as they talked over one another to get their idea out.
We had just finished up celebrating our Chick-fil-A luncheon reward for embracing flexible seating in the classroom. Our local Chick-fil-A in Robinson Twp. had closed one store to build a new and better establishment across town. In turn, they offered out their used furniture to anyone interested. My fellow colleague Olivia, who formally worked at their business, called me up to see if I was interested.
Interested? Ummmm… YES! I brought home tables, chairs and stools that have added more awesome options to our already flexible classroom. But the one thing that I felt would take our learning right over the edge was the ENTIRE LIGHT UP MENU BOARD! You heard me! Yes, I’m the one that looked over at the heap of metal stacked up, ready for the dumpster and said, “Any chance I could have those too?” I remember the look on the manager’s face as if that was far from something that she envisioned we would desire. “SURE!”, she said. Oh yes, this was the game changer I was looking for… math would never be the same in the most exciting way possible!
Rewind… If I am being totally honest, the menus sat in a stack for almost 3 months. They were huge and heavy. The idea had gone from complete excitement to… what was I thinking? Then the day came. The reward luncheon was about to unfold and what better “decoration” to have than the menu boards, right? I brought each one in with the intention of having a simple “REAL-WORLD” math lesson and then off to the stack they would go again. I mean, come on… where on earth was I really going to put all of them?
But when the hype of Christmas came barreling in, I found myself questioning my plan to move into a new unit so I had to ask the experts… the students themselves!
“Let’s run our own restaurant!”, one said. WHAT? HOW? WHEN? We haven’t even learned decimals yet… or money. Wait, we don’t even know the first thing about running a business. How will this take shape? All these questions whirled though MY mind.
HOW WAS I GOING TO SOLVE THIS PROBLEM?
Crazy how I thought this was a PROBLEM that had too many hurdles to make happen. In reality, it was an INCREDIBLE OPPORTUNITY with a personal invitation to authentic learning at its finest! Even crazier to think I felt it was MY problem and not an opportunity to problem solve in the most authentic way possible. A restaurant… WOW!
Well my friends, that is exactly what we will do for the next 2 weeks of school. I smiled and said, “Let’s get this plan in place. Remember, we have to connect it to our learning goals… whose in?”
“WE ARE!” And off they went. The research began instantly. They began talking about managers, shift managers, cost, employee responsibilities, resumes, interviews, and so much more. We have reached out for a little more support from Chick-fil-A to donate bags and paper products to give our “business” life! Students are ready to bring in their kid friendly cash registers, along with additional play-dough and other materials they have listed. Over the next week, my students will be creating their own math journey. One that I know will leave a lasting mark. All of this excitement has unfolded because I simply asked one question.
Tis’ the Season!
CRUSHING GOALS has become our daily mantra in The Ingenious Lab. When you walk in on any given day you will here the sounds of…
“YES, I did it!”
“Ahhhh, sooooo close”
“Look Mrs. Nan, I made it to the next level!”
“Can I have just another minute… I know I can do it?!”.
This is incredibly rewarding for me, but it didn’t happen over night. These are the same students who despised math fluency in August and barely completed a set amount of math facts in under an hour. These are the same students who found little to no value in the NWEA assessment and whizzed through it just to put their heads down. These are the students who groaned at working on phonics when they felt they were past that skill even with gaps in their foundation. They honed in on what came easy for them and snubbed the challenge of other skills and subjects.
Does this sound familiar? Do you find that children have already predetermined what they are good at or not before you even get the chance to show them otherwise? Do they simply push aside areas that require critical thinking, perseverance, or maybe a fresh mindset?
My students needed a fire lit under them and I was determined to do it! They needed a purpose to tie into their learning. They needed to be passionate about their learning. They needed to take pride in their work and the journey they would go on to achieve success. I was committed to making that happen and you can too!
Ways To Make Goal Crushing Achievement Happen:
- Kids need to have fun… it makes them tick! Find their joy and tie it in to the purpose of what they need to learn. For my students their joy stemmed around creating and making, spending time with friends, and having options to choose from that would fit into their current world of interests.
- Find out what they want to be or what they enjoy outside of school that could connect to a profession. They are never too young to visualize their future. This may be a moment of hope for a child. Hope that they can be what they want through determination and hard work. That their future does not have to be defined by their current situation. This is about building a relationship with them beyond the skill, yet listening to their passions to bring relevance to what they are learning.
- Give options for seating. How they learn is a major factor in how much they learn. Flexible seating has been at the forefront of education for a few years and we as educators owe it to every child to jump on board. No two students are alike and we need to help them learn their strengths and weaknesses and then empower them to know what they need to succeed. Do they need to stand? Do they need an outlet for their fidgeting? Do they need to bounce? Do they need to stretch out and put on music? Most do not know. Most students have been told how to learn and now they simply want to sit by a friend to get through the day. Is this really how we want to define learning for them?
- Celebrate their successes… you may be the only one who does! No “buts” involved. They don’t need to hear “you did great, but…” what they did wrong or that they could have done even better. They need to wrap themselves in that moment and celebrate! HUG them, high-five them, do a dance, shout it from the desktop, just make that child relish the moment of success. Believe it or not once they become self-motivated they will no longer hinge their successes on your personal feelings, but instead on their own!
- Have student conferences! These can be as little as 2-3 minutes in length. You must take the time to speak with love and care for their well-being and growth. They are not able to create goals if they do not know where they are at in their learning. They need concrete examples and then an opportunity to create a plan with you. Make this happen for every child!
Be a GOAL CRUSHER for and with every child! Their learning depends on it!
To believe YOU CAN strengthens every fiber of your being. To believe YOU ARE WORTHY humbles your core. BUT to be BELIEVED IN creates endless possibilities.
I can’t help but wonder who our children would be if everyone believed in them. If every teacher, coach, parent, and community member believed in every child. Yes, every child. Not just the “good” ones. Not just the easy ones. Not just the naturally talented or goal driven. Not just the ones that are independent and pursue life with ease. Not just the ones with the best attitude or demeanor. Not just the ones with the solid foundation.
I watch as teachers pin students when they are being inducted into an Honor Society. That teacher was chosen because they made that child feel special… believed in. They made an impact that lasted beyond 180 days of school. What if every child felt that way… or better yet, what if every teacher made every child feel that way?
I watch as coaches cheer on players, help them to overcome mistakes, brush off tough games, and instill confidence. That coach made a difference because they made that child feel special… believed in. What if every player felt that way… or better yet, what if every coach made every player feel that way?
I watch the community member that takes time to listen to a child. To remind them they are visible. To give them a family beyond the four walls of their home. To be seen… believed in. What if…
Are you the one who believes in every child? Are you the teacher they need in their life? The coach? The parent?
YOU ARE MAKING AN IMPACT on EVERY child… it’s up to you whether it is positive or negative.
Oh, the endless possibilities in believing!